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HOW. COOL. 

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When you abide in Christ, when you open yourself to His Spirit’s leading and changing, when you trust and obey Him, your whole being can become ministry.

Whatever you do, do it for the glory of God, do it with God, do it and see people as Jesus saw them, with needs and dreams, and love them. 

I have started more endeavors and realized more dreams in the last year then I think in my entire life. Joining @beautycounter was one of them. 

So I encourage you also — 

Take yourself seriously and not too seriously. Work diligently. Dream big. Be faithful. Have fun. Rest on Jesus. Hold it all with open hands. And enjoy it.
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May we be courageous people who know real hope and endurance in the sorrow of life and real gratitude and wonder in the good of it.
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What is our hope in life and death?
Christ alone, Christ alone
What is our only confidence?
That our souls to him belong
Who holds our days within his hand?
What comes, apart from his command?
And what will keep us to the end?
The love of Christ, in which we stand
— Keith and Kristyn Getty
“Do not be anxious about anything.” Phil 4:6 “Do not be anxious about anything.” Phil 4:6

For any fellow recovering earnaholics out there, an encouragement: 

‘Anything’ doesn’t only encompass what is outside our control — the future, loss, pain, etc. 

Anything also includes things regarding our life with God. 

“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed (synonyms: unsettled, disheartened), for I am your God.” Isaiah 41:10

Fear not, He is in you. And happy to be there. 
Fear not, He’s not changed His mind about you.
Fear not, you are right with Him even now because of Christ. 
Fear not, He delights in you. 
Fear not, nothing can separate you from Him. Even you.
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faith, lifestyle · 07/29/2015

My Battle With Perfectionism

You probably know the signs.

Fear of disapproval from others. Obsession over every little mistake. You’re a success one moment and a failure the next. The feeling you have to be strong and control of your emotions. Beaten down by mistakes. The perpetual feeling you aren’t there yet. Defensive sometimes.

Perfectionism. It’s a really large animal, guys, and it’s an animal in my fence. Since high school I’ve lightly said “I’m a perfectionist so that’s why…..” but I don’t think I truly understood how it affected my life until recently. A couple of life instances challenged this tendency of mine, so I prayed, wrestled, and sought godly counsel.

“I can’t handle having someone being upset with me.”

“My boss will think I am lazy if I take a couple of sick days.”

“I shouldn’t be feeling this way. I should be doing ______.”

“Anything less than perfect isn’t good enough.”

These are examples of perfectionistic thinking, examples of my thinking.

I’ve learned that perfectionism isn’t just a personality trait where you want to always have a clean house or put-together outfit. Dare I say, it’s a poison.

The thing about trying to be perfect is… it is YOU trying to perfect yourself. So then where is God? Many of us try to live perfectly. We try to watch our behavior, our thoughts and our actions, but all that really happens is our failure, shortcomings and imperfections magnify. Our trying so hard becomes harder and harder as we focus more and more on ourselves. It is easy to fall into the legalistic life of the Pharisees. via

Well. Reading that hit me pretty hard.

In response I go back to the Gospel. Preaching the Gospel to myself helps me take my eyes off of myself and how I’m doing. It helps me fix my eyes on Christ, the person who fulfilled all of God’s perfect conditions so that my relationship with Him could be perfectly unconditional.

What shines forth and reveals God in your life is not your relative consistency to an idea of what a saint should be, but your genuine, living relationship with Jesus Christ.

Christian perfection is the perfection of a relationship with God that shows itself to be true even amid the seemingly unimportant aspects of human life. via

Genuine, living relationship with Jesus. Not focusing on myself to check where I am on the meter. Just living it, seeking Him, being in relationship with Him. Heaven knows I can’t change on my own. Enter the Holy Spirit. This is probably going to be one of those ‘minute-by-minute pleading with God for help things,’ but I know and trust and find peace in His presence.

As of this moment, I declare trust in a loving God, and myself as a recovering perfectionist. Resting in Jesus, leaving the right kind of perfecting to Him.

Has anyone ever been down a similar road? Daisy wrote a post recently about how perfectionism steals your joy, and it was spot on.

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Comments

  1. Julie says

    07/29/2015 at 7:06 pm

    This post hit the nail on the head. My name is Julie and I’m a recovering perfectionist too :). I think it comes down to all about trust and faith. Trust that the Lord will take care of it all and I don’t have to! My life and stress levels are so much better when I simply rest in His love and peace! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this!

  2. Chelsea B.E. says

    07/29/2015 at 9:32 pm

    “I think it comes down to all about trust and faith. Trust that the Lord will take care of it all and I don’t have to!” Amen, sister. Easier said than done, but I am encouraged that we’re kindred hearts :)

  3. Holly Loube says

    08/10/2015 at 2:32 pm

    There is so much wisdom and transparency in this post. So often perfectionism is referenced as a healthy goal, but you’re, it’s not. I love the quote about how perfectionism essentially takes God out of the picture. Keeping your eyes on grace will surely remind you that Jesus is the only perfect one. Thanks for sharing this :)

  4. Ashley says

    08/10/2015 at 9:48 pm

    Oh yes. I too fight perfectionism. Constantly. And now I sit and watch my eldest son battle it too. I love the reminder that we don’t need to be enough. Because we aren’t. We just aren’t. But we can point to the One who is. Thank you for sharing so honestly and vulnerably!

  5. Chelsea B.E. says

    08/11/2015 at 3:34 pm

    Amen, sister! Ashley, I can’t imagine watching my child deal with something I myself deal with. I imagine it would be a humbling and challenge-prompting thing.

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#Repost @allthecounterthings
・・・
(cue ‘I’m So Excited’ by The Pointer Sisters)

One of my biggest giveaways to date!

I believe in @beautycounter, even to gift some GREAT things so that you’ll try them for yourself that they may serve you. 

It’s @themasters Friday, and in my city that means an exciting few days is ahead. 

May it be so with your clean beauty swapping!
(Until April 17th. 😊)

Need suggestions or a guide around the website? Message me or click the link in my bio to take a skincare quiz or to find your right foundation shade or to request samples. 

I’m here to help! And I can’t WAIT to gift someone this box of goodness. 

peep @emeraldoxco amazing coffee
What a joy to spend the morning with the beautiful What a joy to spend the morning with the beautiful @ashtonquattlebaum. 

We knew each other in middle/high school, now we’re adults and because of Beautycounter, reconnecting and working and dreaming together.

HOW. COOL. 

This is my ‘why’ with Beautycounter — the opportunity to cultivate friendships and help and love women where God has them, connected by clean beauty products.
spotting airplanes and sharing goldfish spotting airplanes and sharing goldfish
#Repost @allthecounterthings ・・・ #preachingt #Repost @allthecounterthings
・・・
#preachingtomyself

When you abide in Christ, when you open yourself to His Spirit’s leading and changing, when you trust and obey Him, your whole being can become ministry.

Whatever you do, do it for the glory of God, do it with God, do it and see people as Jesus saw them, with needs and dreams, and love them. 

I have started more endeavors and realized more dreams in the last year then I think in my entire life. Joining @beautycounter was one of them. 

So I encourage you also — 

Take yourself seriously and not too seriously. Work diligently. Dream big. Be faithful. Have fun. Rest on Jesus. Hold it all with open hands. And enjoy it.
Anna when asked if she wants blueberries or to go Anna when asked if she wants blueberries or to go outside. #Easter2021
I love what our pastor said this morning — If it I love what our pastor said this morning — If it was just the cross, we’d be a bunch of forgiven corpses. We have been saved TO something, the richest and fullest of life, in Christ, forever. 

May we be courageous people who know real hope and endurance in the sorrow of life and real gratitude and wonder in the good of it.
Anna’s first Good Friday service at Old Kiokee. Anna’s first Good Friday service at Old Kiokee. Memorable for its distractedness and gratitude over church family and mostly for its Savior. 

What is our hope in life and death?
Christ alone, Christ alone
What is our only confidence?
That our souls to him belong
Who holds our days within his hand?
What comes, apart from his command?
And what will keep us to the end?
The love of Christ, in which we stand
— Keith and Kristyn Getty
“Do not be anxious about anything.” Phil 4:6 “Do not be anxious about anything.” Phil 4:6

For any fellow recovering earnaholics out there, an encouragement: 

‘Anything’ doesn’t only encompass what is outside our control — the future, loss, pain, etc. 

Anything also includes things regarding our life with God. 

“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed (synonyms: unsettled, disheartened), for I am your God.” Isaiah 41:10

Fear not, He is in you. And happy to be there. 
Fear not, He’s not changed His mind about you.
Fear not, you are right with Him even now because of Christ. 
Fear not, He delights in you. 
Fear not, nothing can separate you from Him. Even you.
A vulnerable one today, Insta-friends. Mind on the A vulnerable one today, Insta-friends. Mind on the coming weekend. 

Years of painful and gracious transforming revealed false beliefs, fear and pride so strong they were insulating me from God. So with the help of the Holy Spirit, I began to practice opening my hands and relaxing the white-knuckle grip I had on being ‘enough’ on my own. I needed Him to be everything for me because I couldn’t be everything for me. By the grace of God I finally understood: He is incomparable. Nothing and no one is like Him. Nothing and no one can be what He is.

If Jesus is not most precious to me, I'll crumble under the hard, I’ll depend on control, I'll despair over the painful, I'll idolize the good, and I'll be left to settle for mediocrity.

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